Are you ready to take the next step in your relationship? Do you both feel the same way? If so, should you move in with each other? There are a few signs and suggestions of things to look for here. Read on, and you will find some clues that can help you decide once and for all.
Do You Have Good Communication?
One of the biggest compatibility signs is if you are both in the same place from a communication perspective. You need to be able to communicate and share your needs clearly. You both need to know that the other person is listening properly. Sometimes, it is not always easy to communicate sensitive subjects in loving relationships. You should agree to be genuine and open to talking about things with each other.
You each need to feel that you are being listened to attentively and that your partner is acting on what you both decide. If your partner appears to be only paying lip service to your concerns or just agreeing for the sake of not having an argument or discussion, you need to be able to address this issue. Be honest with yourself and realize that once you make the decision to move in with each other, there will be many more times you will have to communicate and often reach a compromise about numerous life choices and situations.
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Key Communication Tips
- Pillow Talk is knowing what to say and how to say it.
- Look inside yourself and understand how you are hearing something. Is that how it was meant?
- Decide how to proceed and what steps you each should take to ensure harmonious solutions.
- Find ways to empathize with each other.
- Validate your partner’s concerns. Some issues may be much more emotionally charged for your loved one than for you.
- Be assertive in addressing your own concerns without belittling your partner’s feelings.
- Remember, everyone has perspectives formed throughout life. Try “walking in your partner’s shoes” to understand where they are coming from.
Accept Each Other As You Are.
If you want your relationship to be intimate and successful, you will want to accept each other fully. You cannot enter your relationship thinking you can change the other person. You will learn more about your partner when you live with each other. When you share a space, you must ensure that your intrinsic habits are amenable. Find ways to compromise and accept your differences. There may always be some new issues later in life. As people grow and changes happen, when you have a solid way of solving each problem that occurs, your relationship will only be strengthened.
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Speak Honestly With Each Other From The Outset
If you can’t talk about moving in together, then this is a clear sign that you are not ready. You have to be honest with each other, and you also need to state what you want and why you want it. Again, you need to listen to the words and the energy behind them. In addition to being able to listen, you also need to be able to listen to what the other person is saying. A good way for you to broach the topic of moving in is for you to discuss the amount of contact you are having and the visits that are happening already. This is a good way for you to bring about a bigger and deeper conversation.
At the end of the day, you also need to determine if this is a good financial decision. If you already have a home or property, then it may be prudent that your partner moves in with you and has their name put on the deed. This is easy to do if you go through sites such as Deeds.com. Either way, you should take the time to ensure that you are financially in a mutually good place. If you discuss and agree to financial considerations up-front, you will be more likely to be able to work together for your ongoing financial benefits in the long run as a couple. You will both feel more confident in your decision.
