Update: It is with great sadness we tell you about the sad passing of this amazing guy, Garth Riley. So loved by all those who knew him. He touched so many lives with his wit, wisdom, and caring. You can see more tributes at this link.
Garth Riley worked with children, and this book came as a result of his experiences. The Bully Defuser Book explains how to overcome bullies. Many people have had some experiences in their lives revolving around being bullied and trying to heal from those wounds.
The following article was originally written in 2021
For some, healing never comes! Some memory triggers a past event, and the feelings of inadequacy come back in full force, causing them to ‘freeze again’ or beat themselves up internally. The effect of being bullied lives on while the bullier often goes scot-free…
Find out more about the author, Garth Riley.
Author, TV personality, coach, and speaker Garth Riley is one of those few people who have both had the experience of being bullied themselves and then gone on to not only heal themselves but help many others in the process.
“If a person can see themselves as the idea factory and just keep churning ideas and that is what you are paid for, so just churn churn churn. Then the next thing to do is when you bring forward an idea that was inspired by a colleague, make sure you give credit to them. Set the example.
Garth Riley
Then there is the Climate. I often mention that when I and a few others were batting around ideas, an idea that popped out was a result of the climate that was set. I realize it is my responsibility to help create that fertile ground by first valuing myself.”
The Bully Defuser, by Garth Riley
Everyone can benefit from the advice in this book! All too often, the negative self-talk or low self-image within ourselves can become our worst bully.
This book gives practical yet simple exercises to stop that inner talk helping you change your underlying patterns.
Change the self-sabotage by changing the things you may be unconsciously telling yourself.
To Purchase The Bully Defuser: Applying the Permission Slip Process.
If you want to know how to stop being bullied and heal the hurt, THE BULLY DEFUSER, by Garth Riley, can help you.
After years of presenting in schools, advocating for students and parents alike to solve bullying issues, Garth has now published his book, The Bully DEFUSER… applying the Permission Slip Process is a short read with long-lasting help.
The Bully Defuser is a little book that you can read in just over an hour. But don’t be fooled… The ideas in this book have been purposely delivered in an uncomplicated format that works! The processes in the book seem simple, but if you have ever been bullied, they are profound. Follow and integrate the steps described in the Permission Slip Process, and it will hit you at a deep level. You will begin healing immediately.
Sometimes the Boardroom Can Contain a Bully
When confronted by an idea thief who claims your idea to be their own, you are often confronted with two possible choices. Do you speak up and affirm that as your idea? Watch as people nod or roll their eyes because you sound defensive. You wonder what you did that allowed this behavior. Perhaps you resolve to be more assertive next time. Either way, inside, you feel like you just lost the game. Garth advises a better approach that, over time, will yield results.
The Bully Defuser by Garth Riley is a book you will use over and over again in various situations.
The bonus guide included at the end of the book, “HOW TO ADVOCATE FOR YOUR BULLIED CHILD AND WIN,” is worth ten times the cost of the book and more. If your child has ever been bullied at school, you will no doubt want to have a winning strategy to deal with this. Too many parents trying to advocate for their children often end up being bullied by ‘the system’ themselves or finding that they have only made the situation worse for their child.
Moments with Garth we remember well…
Garth is one of those talented people with a comic sort of bent. He can strike your funny bone when you are least expecting it. But he is also a poignant character with a very serious side who can get to the heart of something and bring out a depth of empathy that is often startling and revealing.
It is this empathy that so many school students related to when Garth Riley gave his presentations to help both defuse the effects of being bullied and also defuse those who had never seen themselves as bullies previously.
But don’t take my word for it. Here is a transcript of a letter from one of the schools that have invited Garth to present his program.
from Kiki Karailiadis, Vice Principal of
R. H. McGregor E. S. of the
Toronto District School Board.
“Dear Garth Riley,
On behalf of the students and staff at R.H. McGregor, I would like to thank you for your powerful Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones presentation. At a time when bullying is an issue in all schools, it is refreshing to have students learn interactive strategies that will assist them in dealing with challenging situations. Your approach was upbeat, child-focused, and fun. Our student evaluation forms reflect the positive impact of your presentation. Since your visit, our Safe Schools committee decided that they would like to invite you back in the Fall to in-service our staff. It is with great pleasure and enthusiasm that I have shared your program with other administrators.
Sincerely,
Kiki Karailiadis”
The Bully DEFUSER… applying the Permission Slip Process by Garth Riley
Stop being bullied, and Be Well!
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Garth you have made a difference is many people’s lives over the years. I am sure people will want to learn how to teach your method. This is a world-wide situation and you have a lot of experience in helping people overcome bullying.
As the author I often do not hear about me through other’s eyes and ears.
Thankyou Trina for this and I want to change more lives..
This time I want to empower others to join me in becoming a Bully Defuser
Through this book and a few mentoring sessions we are going to have massive impact.
If you are a community organizer … Let me teach you and a few others on how to be a Bully Defuser